If you want to be able to say ‘no’ to internal chatter like…
(1) the fear of missing out
so you sign up for materials that you never get around to reading or participating in

(2) not giving in and feeling ok with that
to the person that is highly likely to ask for your help again with little effort on their part

(3) worry
about things left undone and what’s going to happen in the future

… it can be a little challenging.
These things… they just happen, don’t they?

I’ve discovered that it’s not only saying ‘no’ to others that’s challenging – it’s deciding to choose ‘no’ within yourself first, before actually communicating with the other person.

First you need to get clear on what it is that you truly desire for yourself.
Do you wish to have… more time? more energy?

Second is remembering and holding to your desire, what you want, when you are faced in your unique situation.

Let’s say that you wish for more time for yourself. Yet feel that there are all these demands on your time from people you love or work with.

When you are faced with a request of your time in your unique situation, knowing your desire of wanting more time for yourself will guide you towards making the choice that feels more aligned.

If you keep compromising on that which you desire – giving your time away to others and having little time to yourself – then time isn’t truly what you’re wishing for.

Maybe… you yearn for connection, and you gain that through giving up your time and energy to others.
 

This could be a reason… or not. There are plenty of inner yearnings that you may have.

Ask yourself… What am I yearning for?

Start by looking at where you give in, despite having your own standards. Allow this contrast to bring into clearer perspective, that which you truly desire.

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Lovingly,
 
Viknesvari

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