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Do you sometimes feel triggered by events in your life, videos that you see or stories that you hear from others?

I’m giving a voice to that part of you today, by sharing my personal experience from two weeks ago.

I attended a workshop at the agency recently, on Maternal-Infant Mental Health. I felt really tired that morning, not getting enough rest the night before.

A locally made video was shared and I could not hold my tears back. My eyes welled up. I seriously considered darting out of the training room.

These were only some of the thoughts that ran through my head:
– Oh no, my tears are going to spill over!
– What would they think?
– I must be really exhausted.
– I know exactly how she feels.

My inner reflection was that there is a great impact on the children, even if there is no form of abuse in the household.

Just as was depicted in the video for a little girl in the presence of her parents fighting and the tears she cried while she was on her own; the little girl had grown up and the video showed a teenager who contemplated suicide; and the teenager had grown up into a mother of a young child and a baby.
The mother felt depressed and she heard her inner child’s voice from her own daughter who said “don’t be sad mommy, I’ll be a good girl”.

I saw my story reflected in the video. I knew that I was more susceptible due to a lack of rest. I was feeling vulnerable. I knew that her story is not my story.

I took a deep breath and envision light streaming into my heart and I heard this: I hold the power within me to own my story.

As my reality is only a reflection of my inner world, my next step was to sit with what was triggered within and to bring it into the light of awareness.

What was triggered within me, was the guilt that the little girl felt, when she was not able to fix what happened between her parents. She was not able to make things better for them.

The guilt that the mother felt for bringing her experience into her own daughter’s life creating that similar cycle of guilt and sadness.

As a little girl, and a teenager, I was exposed to arguments and quarrels between my parents, episodes of shouting when my father had consumed alcohol and my mother’s suffering.

As a young adult, I had felt a lot of guilt when I chose to stay out of their conflicts, instead of taking care of my mother’s heart. The heart that loved each of us, unconditionally.

I brought myself back into the present moment and remembered my story in the Now.

– My father had stopped drinking
– My mother is no longer in a victim role
– I told both of my parents the truth about my experience with vicarious trauma. I told them – I forgive you – and asked for their forgiveness in return
– I have forgiven myself
– My mother practices energy healing tools and my father was open to receive a healing session from me
– I tell my parents every chance that I get, “I love you” and we embrace each other in a hug

All of these became possible, after I took the first step to embrace my story, to decide that it was time for me to take the driver’s seat of my life, to free myself from the pain that I felt within so that I can feel empowered and beautiful, inside and out.

Creating the change and healing in my life, naturally created a beautiful change in my family relationships and led me to my magnificent soulmate.

Sometimes external circumstances may impact you, catching you off guard when you’re feeling vulnerable. These are incidents calling an aspect of your personal story into awareness, and it is asking to be honoured, by you.

I’ve been through a journey of untangling my personal story and receiving my truth. I’ve learnt that I hold within me, inner strength and unstoppable courage to be more of who I really am, as I move forward with support, love and guidance.

You are not alone, beautiful woman.
This incredible change, is possible for you too.

If you would like to begin this journey for yourself, head on over to my offer’s page and grab my introductory offer for the Relationship Triggers Session to kickstart your healing!

What aspect of your personal story is being triggered at the moment? Please share your thoughts in the comments below!

Lovingly,
 
Viknesvari

When I ask a woman, what makes her happy, she tells me the list of things that make her joyful! Like her favourite high vibe music, exploring her creativity, spending time with her partner or family, sleeping!

When I dig a little deeper, I find out that the things on her list is only something that she makes time for over the weekend or when she is feeling tired, overwhelmed or sick!

That is not a sustainable self-care plan that serves you!

Taking care of you, your energy, your body, your needs and desires is not something that can wait for the weekend! This why your body crashes, to catch your attention and force you to rest!

If you believe that you need to push yourself really hard over the weekdays so that you can rest over the weekend – is a limiting belief that is not serving you.

Imagine coming to the end of your life.
Would you want to look back and reflect that you had spent your weekdays working and your weekends resting and nourishing you?
Wouldn’t you want to feel that you’ve taken just 5 minutes out of your busy day to show some of that love that you’re giving to others, to yourself as well?

You have the opportunity to feel renewed and loved up in the morning, nourished in the afternoon, cared for, listened to, respected and a soft landing space when the day ends, such that no matter what happens in your day, you know what you need to do, to return back fully to who you really are.

All of these are gifts that YOU have the power of giving to yourself!

Here are some of the benefits of living with a daily self-care plan!

Having a DAILY self-care plan means that you:
– Nourish yourself and fill your cup everyday, by understanding your energetic patterns so that you can show up as who you really are
– Soften your inner critic’s voice so that you can create more peace and clarity in your mind
– Develop confidence in your inner loving voice
– Become more of who you really are, by embodying more Love, the essence that is you, in your life
– Say no to people, events or things without the fear that you’re missing out

The SECRET BONUSES of having a DAILY self-care plan enables you to:
– Practice setting boundaries around your daily plan helps you to set boundaries in your relationships with family, partners and close friends
– Set boundaries and speak your truth without feeling guilty for taking care of you or hurting someone else
– Stop giving in to others, to avoid difficult conversations or conflicts
– Give to others from a cup that overflows without feeling drained
– Expand your capacity to receive your own self-love so that you can receive love abundantly from your romantic partner, family or close friends
– Create space in your mind and your life for yourself to that you can create space for a fulfilling and healthy relationship with your loved ones

Are you ready to step into and claim YOUR INNER POWER by taking care of yourself, every single day?

Leave a comment below and tell me what simple self-care practice you will commit to practicing every single day?
If you already have a daily self-care practice, what will you do for yourself, beyond your morning and evening practice, to take care of you, during the day?

If you would like support in implementing a daily self-care practice, take my Daily Self-Care Assessment which will help you see how your current self-care practice has been serving 6 important aspects of your life and walk away with a sustainable self-care action plan that fuels you from within, allowing you to show up as more of who you really are, every single day!